So I’ve been hearing about Tantra lingam stuff online for ages, kept seeing these big claims about energy and connection, and honestly? I was skeptical but curious. Decided to dive in myself this week. Didn’t want anything complicated, just simple stuff anyone could try at home. Here’s exactly how it went down.
The Gear Up
First thing – chill vibes matter. Grabbed my comfiest blanket off the couch, dimmed the bedroom lights way down. Made sure the door was locked – zero chance of awkward interruptions! Mixed some plain coconut oil I had in the kitchen with a couple drops of lavender oil I found in the bathroom cupboard. Smelled kinda nice. Set the timer on my phone for 20 minutes but hid the screen so I wouldn’t peek. Ready? Okay.
Method #1: Just Breathe & Chill
Sat on the edge of the bed, feet flat on the floor. Closed my eyes and tried to slow my breathing. This was harder than I thought. My brain kept racing – work emails, laundry, that weird noise the fridge makes. Took like 5 solid minutes to actually just… breathe. Deep breath in, hold it a sec, sloooow breath out. After a while, felt a tiny shift. Shoulders dropped. Less like a coiled spring. Simple, yeah, but kinda… grounding?
Method #2: Warm Oil & Gentle Touch
Poured a tiny bit of that coconut/lavender oil mix into my palm to warm it up. Started super slow. Just lightly placing my hands on my thighs, then belly, working my way up to the chest, shoulders. No goal, just feeling the warmth of my own hands. Eventually moved hands lower, still super gentle. Just holding, feeling the skin, the warmth. Honestly felt a bit weird at first, like giving myself a handshake or something. But then… relaxed into it? Less clinical, more just… present with myself. Not rushed.
Method #3: Focus is Key
While doing the oil thing, tried to really pay attention. Like, really focus. Felt the texture of the oil? Smooth. Warm? Yep. Sensation where my hands touched? Kinda tingly. When my mind inevitably wandered back to that work email, gently dragged it back. “Hey brain, just feel this right now.” Not about pushing feelings, just noticing them. Harder to stay focused than doing a crossword!
Method #4: Energy Flow Feeling?
This one sounded woo-woo to me. Lingam nestled gently in hands. Tried to imagine… energy? Like warmth or a light buzz, flowing up. Did I actually feel a stream of mystical energy? Nah. But. Did feel a definite warmth spreading upwards from my belly after a while? Like that feeling after a sip of good whiskey? Just radiating slowly? Yeah, actually. Hard to describe, but definitely pleasant.
Method #5: Appreciative Touch
Got told not to see it as a tool, but part of me. Whole me. Weird mental shift. Stopped the slow strokes, just rested hands lightly, kinda enveloping. Didn’t do anything, just was. Listened to my breathing, felt my heartbeat. Felt… peaceful? Accepting? Like hanging out with an old friend without needing to chat. Unexpectedly nice way to end.
The Aftermath: Timer went off. 20 minutes flew by. Didn’t levitate or achieve enlightenment. But? Calmer. Softer. Less wound up in the head. Body felt warm, heavy. Good heavy. Like sinking into a comfy sofa after a long walk. Skeptic still here, but… maybe onto something? Less tension, more ease. Might try again next week. Just five simple things, honestly didn’t cost me a dime or need fancy gear.
