Okay, here’s my take, written in a casual, personal blog style, focusing on the actual doing, just like you asked:
So, you wanna know how it’s done? Alright, let’s get down to it. This is just my experience, and every woman is different, so keep that in mind. It’s all about paying attention and figuring out what she likes.
First things first, communication is key. Seriously. Don’t just dive in without a word. Talk to her. Ask her what she enjoys. Does she like it gentle? Rough? Does she have any spots that are extra sensitive? A simple, “What feels good to you?” can go a long way. Don’t be shy, and don’t make her feel shy either.
Next up, the setup. Make sure you’re both comfortable. Maybe dim the lights, put on some music if that’s your thing…or not. Whatever sets the mood. Sometimes it’s nice to start with some kissing and touching all over, not just going straight for the main event. Get her warmed up.
Getting Started Down There
Once you’re both ready, it’s time to move south. Start slow. Don’t go straight for the clitoris like it’s a button you gotta mash. Explore a little. Use your lips and tongue to gently kiss and lick the inner thighs, the area around…you know. Tease her a bit.
- Use your hands, too! Gentle touching, caressing…it all adds to the sensation.
- Lick up, lick down, I find that some like variety in the strokes.
- Pay attention to her reactions. If she moans or moves in a certain way, that’s a good sign. If she tenses up, ease off and try something different.
Then, when you feel like the time is right (and she’s giving you the go-ahead, either verbally or with her body), focus on the clitoris. But remember, it’s delicate. Start with gentle licking, maybe some light, circular motions with your tongue. You can also try flicking your tongue against it, but again, gentle at first.
Some women like a little bit of pressure, so you can use your fingers to gently press on the area around the clitoris while you’re licking. Experiment with different pressures and see what she responds to. I have pressed, massaged, and used a combination of fingers and tounge at the sametime.
The most important thing is to keep paying attention. Listen to her, watch her body language, and adjust what you’re doing accordingly. Don’t just stick to one thing the whole time. Mix it up. Try different techniques. It’s a learning process, and you’ll both figure it out together.
And finally, don’t forget to enjoy it yourself! It’s supposed to be fun for both of you. Relax, be present, and have a good time.
It is key to go at her pace and preference, she will let you know. Don’t be afraid to experiment.
