Alright, let’s talk about it. I’m gonna share my experiences, raw and uncut. This is just what worked for me, alright? Your mileage may vary.
So, first thing’s first: Communication is key. You can’t just dive in. Gotta talk to your partner. Find out what they like, what they’re comfortable with. Straight up ask. No shame in the game.
I started with foreplay, lots of it. Kissing, touching, you know the drill. Get them nice and relaxed. Build that anticipation. Don’t rush into anything. I’d usually spend a good 20-30 minutes just setting the mood.
Then, when the time feels right, I’d get down there. Start slow, gentle. Use your lips, your tongue. Focus on the clit. Experiment with different pressures, different motions. Some girls like it soft, some like it rougher. Pay attention to their body language. Listen for the moans, the gasps. That’s your feedback right there.
I found that using my hands at the same time helps a lot. Tease the inner thighs, the surrounding areas. Keep them engaged. The goal is to create a full-body experience, not just a localized one.
- Vary the pace. Don’t just stick to one thing. Speed it up, slow it down, change the angle. Keep them guessing.
- Use your breath. A little hot breath on the clit can be surprisingly effective.
- Don’t forget the other parts! The lips, the perineum, the whole vulva deserves attention.
The biggest mistake I made early on was focusing too much on just the clit. It’s important, sure, but it’s not the whole story. Explore. Be adventurous. And most importantly, be present. Don’t just go through the motions. Really connect with your partner. Make them feel desired, loved, and appreciated.
I remember one time, I was so focused on “getting her off” that I completely missed her cues. She was getting uncomfortable, but I didn’t notice. Big mistake. She told me later that she felt like I was just trying to check off a box. That was a real wake-up call for me.
So, learn from my mistakes. Listen to your partner. Pay attention to their body language. And remember, it’s not about you. It’s about them. If they’re enjoying themselves, you’re doing it right.
Afterward, don’t just roll over and go to sleep. Cuddle, talk, tell them how amazing they are. Make them feel special. Because they are.
