Okay, guys, let’s dive into this. No beating around the bush – we’re talking about going down on a woman. I’m gonna share what’s worked for me, based on, you know, actual experience.
First things first, communication is key. Seriously. Before you even get close, talk to her. Ask her what she likes. Does she like it gentle? Rough? Does she have any spots that are particularly sensitive? Don’t be shy. It’s way better to ask and get it right than to fumble around in the dark (literally).
Next, set the mood. I dim the lights, maybe put on some music she likes – nothing too distracting, just something to create a relaxed vibe. Clean sheets are a must, obviously. And, uh, make sure you’re clean too. Good hygiene is non-negotiable, fellas.
Now, the approach. I start slow. Kissing is crucial. I’m talking inner thighs, stomach, working my way down. This builds anticipation. It’s not a race, it is building the tension.
- Teasing with my fingers. Gentle circles, light pressure. See how she reacts.
- Use all five senses.
Then, when I get there, I start with soft, gentle licks. Think butterfly kisses, but with your tongue. I pay attention to her body language. Does she arch her back? Moan? Grip the sheets? Those are good signs. If she tenses up or pulls away, I ease off and go back to kissing or using my fingers.
The Clitoris
This little button is the key, but it’s not a doorbell. Don’t just go straight for it and start hammering away. Start around it. Lick in circles, flick your tongue lightly, build up the intensity. Some women like direct clitoral stimulation, some prefer it indirectly. Again, pay attention to her reactions.
I like to use a combination of techniques:
- Licking: Long strokes, short flicks, circular motions.
- Sucking: Gentle suction, like you’re sipping a really good milkshake.
- Fingers: Use one or two fingers to provide additional pressure or stimulation.
Variety is the spice of life, right? So, I switch things up. I don’t just stick to one technique the whole time. I might lick for a while, then suck, then use my fingers, then go back to licking. It keeps her guessing and, hopefully, keeps her on the edge.
Don’t forget the rest of her vulva. The labia are sensitive too. I like to gently lick and nibble on them, again, paying attention to her responses. What do I do with my hands? One might be gently stroking her thighs or holding her hips, the other can be playing with her clit or, ahem, other areas.
The most important thing is to be present. Be in the moment. Focus on her pleasure. Listen to her, watch her, feel her. It’s not about you, it’s about her. And believe me, if she’s having a good time, you’ll be having a good time too.
And when she, you know, arrives? Don’t stop immediately. Keep going for a little while longer, gently, softly. Let her come down gradually. Then, lots of cuddling and aftercare. Because it’s not just about the act itself, it’s about the connection.
That’s my playbook, guys. It’s not rocket science, but it takes practice and attentiveness. The most important tool you have is your, well, your tongue, but also your ears and your eyes. Use them!
