Okay so this all started because my girlfriend got upset after I tried going down on her one night. It was awkward and she said it felt rushed. I realized I had no clue what I was doing, so the next day I decided to research and actually practice properly.
The Learning Phase
First I watched some educational videos – not the porn kind, but those anatomy tutorials. Learned where the clit actually is and how it’s super sensitive. Shocking news: most nerve endings are outside, not inside! Also read women’s forums where they vented about guys rushing or using too much pressure.
Setting Up Practice
I asked my girlfriend if she’d be my practice partner for real. She laughed but agreed if we treated it like a lab experiment – no pressure, just feedback. Rules we set:
- She’d say “slower” or “lighter” if needed
- No goal of making her finish, just exploring
- 20 minute max sessions
First Attempt Disaster
Started like I always did: straight for the clit with fast tongue circles. Big mistake. She stopped me after 40 seconds saying “That’s like sandpaper!” Turns out dry tongue = terrible. Also realized my neck got stiff as hell trying to stay in position.
Adjustments Made
- Used lube so tongue glided smoothly
- Put pillows under her hips so I didn’t need to crane neck
- Focus on OUTER lips first to warm up area
Finding Rhythms
Tried different patterns instead of just circles. Like:
- Slow side-to-side slides
- Teasing around the clit but not touching it directly at first
- “Alphabet tracing” technique I read about
She kept shaking her head no till I tried super light fingertip pressure on her inner thigh while using flat tongue strokes. Got a “keep doing that!” reaction finally.
Major Breakthrough
Discovered she went nuts when I:
- Combined steady tongue pressure on her clit with gentle fingering (one finger only)
- Paid attention to her breathing – when it sped up, I didn’t change anything!
- Added occasional sucking (gently like a straw) which she didn’t expect at all
Actual Results
After three weeks of twice-weekly practice? Last session she grabbed my hair and yelled “DON’T STOP” – first time she ever came from oral. Game changer! Biggest lessons:
What works: Starting SLOWER than you think, mixing up patterns, communicating constantly
What fails: Speeding up too early, ignoring body feedback, constant pressure changes
Turns out it’s not about magic tricks – just reading her body signals and staying consistent. Still learning!
