Okay, let’s talk about something personal that I practiced a lot because honestly? I wanted to get better at it. Sharing what worked for me step by step.
The Starting Point & Feeling Clueless
Right, so I realized I didn’t know what I was doing down there. At all. My girlfriend never complained, but I could kinda tell it wasn’t rocking her world. Felt awkward admitting I needed to figure it out. So I decided to treat it like learning anything else: slow, patient practice.
Getting Over the Nerves & Starting Simple
First time trying with this new mindset? Super weird. Kneeling down there, just kinda… stared at it for a second. Took a breath. Remembered: cleanliness is huge. Like, shower fresh is mandatory. Rinsed my mouth with water too – no weird tastes. Started slow with gentle kisses, light pressure, everywhere around her clit first. Inner thighs, lips… getting comfortable down there without diving straight in.
Figuring Out Her Reaction
This part took time. Had to actually pay attention, not just do my thing. Learned to watch her breathing, little movements, listen for soft sounds – way better than asking “You good?” every minute. Noticed when she shifted her hips towards me, that was a green light. When she got still or tense? Pumped the brakes immediately. Used my fingers too alongside my mouth – one or two inside, easy pressure, matching the rhythm.
The Clit Focus – Finding What Actually Worked
This was the game-changer part. The clit seemed super sensitive, so I started real gentle. Forget sucking hard like a vacuum cleaner – that just hurt her. Found way better stuff:
- Flat, Wet Tongue: Licking broad strokes over everything, nice and wet. Less pokey tongue action.
- Soft Circles: Covering the whole clit area with the tip of my tongue, tiny soft circles. Felt more like pressure massage than licking.
- The Light Sip: Gentle suction over the whole area, really lightly. Almost just creating pressure without “sucking.”
- Tease-Back Off: Licking near or around it, avoiding the main spot for a bit, then coming back. That “almost” feeling drove her nuts.
The key? Staying patient and not rushing to make her cum fast. Focused on the buildup feeling, keeping the pressure steady, letting it simmer.
Putting it Together – How it Feels Now
After many practice sessions (communication was key! Asked for feedback!), it finally clicked. I found a rhythm: start slow and broad with my whole mouth, fingers inside giving consistent pressure. Gradually focus in more on the clit with those soft circles or flat strokes, matching the speed and pressure to her breathing getting faster. Didn’t change stuff up constantly. When she got close? Just stayed exactly the same, kept that steady rhythm going through her orgasm. Changed my whole vibe down there – became way more confident and comfortable.
The Real Takeaway
It wasn’t about being some expert instantly. Took messing up, trying again, watching her reactions closely, and not getting impatient. Biggest lesson? Focus on her signals, not your ego. Forget trying to be “amazing.” Just be present, take your time, and actually tune into how her body responds. Total game-changer.
