Okay, so I wanted to figure out this whole “getting over a breakup” thing. I mean, how long does it really take? I went through a rough patch a while back, and let me tell you, it felt like forever. I dug into some stuff online and started my own little experiment to see what works and what’s just talk.
Getting Started
First off, I realized I was all over the place. One minute I was fine, the next I was a mess. There were so many thoughts and feelings, it was crazy. It was a mess, honestly. I saw somewhere that it’s called “ambivalence,” and yeah, that’s exactly what it felt like. A total rollercoaster.
The Painful Truth
I read that you gotta “honor your pain.” Sounds a bit dramatic, but it’s true. I let myself feel all the sadness and anger. I cried, I screamed into a pillow, I did all the things. I learned that breakups often bring on serious grief, and I was definitely in that boat. It hurt like hell, no sugarcoating it.
Trying to Find Answers
So, how long does this torture last? One article mentioned that some people start feeling better in about 11 weeks. But, it also said that it depends on a bunch of stuff, like how long you were together and how intense the relationship was. That made sense, but I needed more than just a number.
My Action Plan
I came across this step-by-step guide, and one of the tips was to avoid contact with your ex for like 60 to 90 days. This came from the guy who wrote that famous book, “He’s Just Not That Into You.” I figured, why not? I went full no-contact. Deleted the number, unfollowed on social media, the whole nine yards. It was tough, but I had to do it.
- First Few Weeks:
- This was the hardest part. I was constantly tempted to reach out, but I held strong. I started journaling to get my thoughts out instead of texting them.
- Midway Point:
- Around the 6-week mark, I started feeling a bit better. I wasn’t thinking about my ex 24/7 anymore. I started hanging out with friends more and even picked up a new hobby – painting.
- The 90-Day Mark:
- By the end of the 90 days, I felt like a new person. Sure, I still had moments of sadness, but they were fewer and farther between. I realized I was actually okay on my own.
What I Learned
Getting over a breakup is a real journey. It’s not just about time; it’s about what you do with that time. Avoiding contact was a game-changer for me. It gave me the space I needed to heal. And yeah, honoring the pain was important too. You can’t just skip over the hard parts. You gotta feel them to get through them.
So, to anyone going through a breakup, it’s gonna suck for a while. But trust me, it does get better. Give yourself time, cut off contact, and let yourself feel all the feels. You’ll come out stronger on the other side. This was my experience, and I hope sharing it helps someone else out there.
