Why I Started Looking Into This
So yeah, my marriage was going south fast. Me and my wife fought all day over little things like chores or money. It felt awful, like we were just roommates, not partners. One night, I slammed the door after a big fight and thought, “Man, this sucks. Can this even be saved, or should we just end it?” I knew I needed to do something.
Next morning, I sat down with my laptop and searched for ways out. I found an article about ending relationships, and it talked about 9 methods that really help. It gave me a tiny bit of hope, so I decided to try them all myself.
My Step-by-Step Process of Trying the 9 Methods
I took a deep breath and dove in. I didn’t want it to end badly, so I went method by method.
First up, I started with just talking.
- I picked a quiet time when we weren’t mad and sat her down.
- Told her how I felt without blaming her, like “Hey, I’m really struggling here.”
- It was tough, but she actually listened this time.
That made me think maybe there’s a chance. So I moved to the next one.
Then, I tried cutting out distractions.
- We both dumped our phones for an hour each night.
- Just talked about nothing important, like old times.
- It felt weird at first, but it helped us chill out.
By now, I was feeling a bit less hopeless. On to method three.
I focused on my own stuff for a bit.
- Signed up for a cheap online course on gardening.
- Stayed busy so I wasn’t always thinking about us.
- She noticed I was calmer and asked what was up.
This one was a game-changer. I started seeing that not everything was about us.
Method four was about boundaries.
- Set rules like no talking about money during dinner.
- Enforced it politely when she slipped.
- She got mad at first, but later said it made sense.
Wow, small wins. Kept me going.
For method five, I brought in a neutral person.
- Called a friend who’s good at mediation.
- He came over, and we hashed things out with him as a ref.
- Awkward, but it stopped us from screaming.
After that, I was tired but hopeful. Six was a biggie.
Took a mini-break from each other.
- Stayed at my brother’s place for a weekend.
- Didn’t text or call, just chilled.
- Coming back, we had fresh eyes and less anger.
This felt like breathing again. Seventh method came easy.
Started small acts of kindness.
- Made her coffee in bed one morning.
- Didn’t expect anything back, just did it.
- She smiled for the first time in weeks, man.
That little smile gave me so much hope. On to eight.
I wrote down what I wanted.
- Jotted on a napkin: “Save this or move on?”
- Listed pros and cons, simple stuff.
- Showed it to her—she added her own points.
We were finally on the same page. Last one felt heavy.
Faced the decision head-on.
- Said to her straight, “Do we fix this or call it?”
- We cried, talked for hours, and chose to work on it.
- No quick fixes, just a mutual agreement.
Where Things Ended Up
After all that grinding, we didn’t end it. Yeah, we’re still together, but it’s way better now. We don’t fight as much, and I found that hope the methods promised. Honestly, it was messy and hard, but trying each step kept me sane. If you’re stuck like I was, give ’em a shot—no magic, just real effort.
